Re: the poor woman who called in with the mean sisterinlaw. I have three girls, now women, and at one point or another in 5th or 6th grade, someone was on the outs with the group...how to regain entry or just civility? Fight fire with fire! The only thing that will work is if this lovely woman (the wife) goes into Thanksgiving pretending…
Re: the poor woman who called in with the mean sisterinlaw. I have three girls, now women, and at one point or another in 5th or 6th grade, someone was on the outs with the group...how to regain entry or just civility? Fight fire with fire! The only thing that will work is if this lovely woman (the wife) goes into Thanksgiving pretending (that is the key) that nothing is amiss nothing strange. WIFE ( I am sorry I forgot your name!) has to ignore sisterinlaw and act totally fine. She can say hello, but don't sit near her but make it unintentional, there is someone else you want to talk to. Have conversations (lively ones!) with others and avoid her but so that it is not obvious. If she speaks to you give a nice confident hello but then be rushing to the bathroom or to go get a drink. Don't give a care, act confident and happy and she will hate that. Act like you don't need her, like nothing is going on between you and basically don't engage. If she comes into a conversation with the group you are in, politely excuse yourself (lots of trips to the bathroom) but in a friendly way. It works every single time! Don't give her the satisfaction of seeing you grovel, hurt, or even acknowledging her animosity. If your husband speaks to her, she will just deny acting like this, it won't do anything. If you don't give them the attention, whatever is happening, is not happening! Good luck!!
Re: the poor woman who called in with the mean sisterinlaw. I have three girls, now women, and at one point or another in 5th or 6th grade, someone was on the outs with the group...how to regain entry or just civility? Fight fire with fire! The only thing that will work is if this lovely woman (the wife) goes into Thanksgiving pretending (that is the key) that nothing is amiss nothing strange. WIFE ( I am sorry I forgot your name!) has to ignore sisterinlaw and act totally fine. She can say hello, but don't sit near her but make it unintentional, there is someone else you want to talk to. Have conversations (lively ones!) with others and avoid her but so that it is not obvious. If she speaks to you give a nice confident hello but then be rushing to the bathroom or to go get a drink. Don't give a care, act confident and happy and she will hate that. Act like you don't need her, like nothing is going on between you and basically don't engage. If she comes into a conversation with the group you are in, politely excuse yourself (lots of trips to the bathroom) but in a friendly way. It works every single time! Don't give her the satisfaction of seeing you grovel, hurt, or even acknowledging her animosity. If your husband speaks to her, she will just deny acting like this, it won't do anything. If you don't give them the attention, whatever is happening, is not happening! Good luck!!